Today my husband and I celebrate five years of marriage. After ten years together, it was time to put a ring on it and make it official. We had a civil partnership in Northern Ireland as it was still illegal for people of the same sex to be married then. Thankfully, it was made legal in 2020.
For us, marriage was about strengthening our commitment to each other, showing our love for each other to the world, providing security for each other and having that certainty that we would be seen as a couple in the eyes of the law. As we were moving to Australia, we wanted that security, for example, heaven forbid, if something happened to one of us. We also wanted to have a time of celebration with our families and friends, before we would leave Northern Ireland for a new chapter Down Under.

When we arrived in Australia the following month, we were surprised to discover that gay marriage was also not legal here. This was astounding as we know how gay friendly Australia is and Sydney hosts one of the biggest Mardi Gras festivals in the world.
On 9 December 2017, the right to marry in Australia was no longer based on sex or gender. This was amazing news and enabled us to be married officially. We had a small wedding service on our one year anniversary (four years ago today), just for us. We felt that we were married before but now it was official. We had a ceremony at one of our favourite beaches with an intimate collection of family and friends.

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Wayne βπ½
Congratulations and Happy Anniversary. We have 6 “marriages” for similar reasons…taking every step as it became legal to one degree or another.
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Oh wow! Thatβs incredible. I think two times is enough for us π€£
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Happy Anniversary!
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Thank you very much!
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Congratulations! ππππΎ I donβt know why people put barriers on love, itβs disheartening to me. Have a great day!
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Cheers! Thanks a lot. Iβm not sure either, fear and ignorance maybe π€
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Yup. That is ruling here in the states π
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I feel sad for America at the moment as things seems to be regressing in some parts π
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It is and as a person who has granddaughters and a great granddaughter on the way I fear these regulations will make things worse for everyone
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Hopefully it will overturn ππΌ
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Thanks, I do hope
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Happy Anniversary and wishing you a long and happy union!!
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Thanks so much Jean!
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Hope you had a wonderful time!!!
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Many congratulations to you both.
We had our civil partnership in Brighton in February 2006, just two months after Elton John had his. We’ve often been asked if we would exchange the civil partnership for a marriage (like many of our friends have done), but we’ve stuck with the civil partnership because it was something we both fought for from the 1980s.
It’s great to see many countries allowing same-sex marriage now, but there are still many where being gay is still against the law. One day, I hope there won’t be anywhere in the world where two people of the same sex can not love and live together peacefully.
Wishing you both many happy years together, Wayne.
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Thanks a lot Hugh! I know we are lucky where we are in the world. Many others are less fortunate with their countryβs laws. It would be wonderful if one day it would be accepted everywhere ππΌ
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Congratulations! You should get a medal for “persistence” as well!
Enjoy!
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Thanks very much! π
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Happy Anniversary!
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Thanks a lot Dan!
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Happy anniversary! And sincere congratulations to you both. Your story sounds so familiar. My husband and I had four goes at marriage: a commitment ceremony in 2011, then a civil partnership, later an exchange of rings ceremony, and finally a legal wedding in New Zealand in 2014. The fifth, and final chapter was 9 December 2017 when it also became legal in Australia too. Our story, like yours, is the story of historical progress over a tumultous decade – fortunately, the young people getting married now can get it right in one go.
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Oh wow David thanks for sharing your story! Amazing the journey we have all been on and youβre so right, it is lovely that the next generations will hopefully have it easier and it will never even be an issue for them ππΌ
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The struggle is real and while things have started easing out, I guess, it will take a few more generations before we can say that coming generations will not have an issue.
Not from the community; just an empathetic soul trying to find her purpose in life… My favorite singers from Ricky Martin to Duncan James (of British Band Blue fame) have come out in the open and I still adore them and as their fan, I support them.
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Oh I love those 2 singers also!!! I guess people have a lot to learn about tolerance and acceptance, not just with same sex relationships but also gender, race, cultureβ¦
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Many congratulations! π
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Aww many thanks π
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It must be a wonderful feeling for you both, congratulations.
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Thanks a lot Paul. Yes itβs such a good feeling π
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Happy anniversary. Love knows no boundaries… It should not know any boundaries
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Thank you so much Swati π
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